Boyfriend can't cum, help?

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Boyfriend can't cum, help?

Post by Tuke » Sun Aug 09, 2020 6:45 pm

We've been together for a year now and it's been great, the only issue is that the sex has been a constant issue most of the time.

He has never been able to cum, at the start of the relationship he had issues getting it up and holding an errection, which can be normal, especially if you're nervous but even now he gets it up then it will go soft and then we wait for a while and then it's back in action. Its frustrating him as well as me and I know it creates a bit of anxiety during sex because he's not sure how long things will last.

We've tried a lot of things, tried Viagra which did work, but even after an hour of sex he still couldn't cum. Tried sucking him off a few times but he's said he's not a fan of oral generally so we don't do that anymore, but the few times we did he had peed in my mouth, like a lot, he said he feels like he was gonna cum but peed instead, it got me very worried and he went the doctor just out of concern for his health, but he told me the doctor advised it was nothing to worry about and it just it happens sometimes. We've tried him just wanking off while kissing me and that, to try and transition to sex from that, as it's the same sensation he's used to and maybe just him being able to cum while I'm there might help but he still went soft and said it felt a bit awkward and he was more self conscious which I understand.

He says he still likes it and if he's happy with things that's fine by me and it's become normal now but because he always ends up going soft every single time during sex it also means we can't do a lot of other positions he might really like, because it's not hard enough, at the moment it's exclusively cowgirl and I will admit I am getting slightly fed up, but I mainly wonder if there could be anything wrong and feel he's missing out.

I'm just wondering if anyone else has had any similar problems or have any idea of anything that might help?

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Re: Boyfriend can't cum, help?

Post by Naughty Man » Sun Aug 09, 2020 6:53 pm

Does he do things like kegels. Also he can goto the doctors and talk to them

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Re: Boyfriend can't cum, help?

Post by Hovis » Sun Aug 09, 2020 7:44 pm

It sounds like it's an anxiety spiral, albeit subconsciously. He is expecting to not be able to and because of that does.

You could try hypnosis.
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Re: Boyfriend can't cum, help?

Post by MrsS » Sun Aug 09, 2020 8:55 pm

If everything has been checked out medically and any physical issues eliminated then as Hovis says it may well be anxiety induced. You could consider CBT to assist as this essentially trains you to think differently and helps overcome the mental block.

Hope you can get to the bottom of it.

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Re: Boyfriend can't cum, help?

Post by Con e lingus » Mon Aug 10, 2020 7:26 am

Is it possible that he’s actually gay but unwilling to accept it? Try watching some gay porn see how it affects him. To be fair all the things you do for him would have you covered in spunk normally .

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Re: Boyfriend can't cum, help?

Post by Wolf Mother » Sun Dec 27, 2020 7:56 pm

Okay, here's my completely unprofessional advice. AND it's free. So entirely valueless:

Fall in love.

With each other, preferably.

Do things around, but not sex.

When I found my man, he was like play dough. Just one year and now he's my stallion!

We began growing each others' confidence; complimenting each others' talents and character, etc. Then our eyes felt confident enough to linger (how long are you both comfortable looking into each others' eyes?) and then touch.

Just holding hands...

In the street. Sneaky bum feels in the kitchen, leading to to hand slaps away and cheeky giggles in the bathroom...

When one of my girls looks ill, we look at the nutrition of the soil.

Stop having "sex". Now.

Go and fall in love!!!
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